News here....basically none except that we are learning still to be a family of 5. I don't think Tristan has totally changed our way of living at all....I think he just happened along a time in life that is constantly changing due to the ages of our kids. They each are learning new things and experiencing new challenges everyday. Trinity is definitely a full blown toddler now but I still view her as my baby. She is SOOOO good at talking. If she's in the backseat of the car and she drops something she'll say "I drop it daddy." She mimics everything Brady does....sometimes cute and sometimes annoying as in "I'm so annoyed I want to run out into the yard and do laps" annoying.
Brady is still....Brady. He's very smart and very challenging. He's still sweet and funny, and still having meltdowns everyday. I'm beginning to research behavior disorders JUST because I have always thought that all it would take with a child is consistency and they would be fine. "Normal" toddlers after having a certain thing corrected every time they say something or do something disobedient would change it at least a little after 2 years. EVERYTHING is an issue with Brady and most things make him frustrated or very emotional and sad. Zac and I are feeling at a total loss right now as to how to help him because we have tried everything and not just tried...but consistently tried. Right now I am bidding on a book called Raising High Spirited Child and the back cover says exactly what we are going through....hopefully it will be a good read.
Sometimes I feel like this is all kind of my fault because when we had kids I took the whole "I know exactly what to do with my little kids....just consistently discipline and consistently love - keep them creative and active, involve them in what you are doing throughout your day. I have done this his whole life and it's not fixing any of his issues. I have joined a mothering Bible study...got tons of helpful advice...we have joined a study as a couple and had more good advice. I have prayed and prayed and prayed about my child and for my child and for us...so now this is my conclusion without seeing a doctor or professional of any kind - he has something a little abnormal and I need to try other things now to help him besides the "take away toys" or "spank" or "re do everything until you do it right."
After reading this book I also plan on reading a book on autism. I had no idea there were so many types of autism and some of them can even be controlled by diet. Whatever we do it will be the most "natural" route. I do not plan on medicating or labeling Brady but we could use some answers as to how to communicate better with our little boy. He needs help adjusting to change. ANY type of change. So, if you could keep us and our *search* in your prayers. These last few weeks have been especially challenging for us.